How do I know this person is right for me? How can I tell if they will make a good life partner? What is the most important thing I can ask them?
None of these questions has a simple answer. The way we feel when we fall in lovedoesn’t necessarily mean that we are with the right person. This is why we call it “falling” in love. It doesn’t mean that we are compatible — only that we are human and have body chemistry. Moreover, when we’re under love’s spell, most of us are willing to do anything, say anything, and be anything. Anyone who has watched The Bachelorcan say the “right” things; it’s how a person lives that holds the key to really knowing who they are.
It’s better to use the logical part of our brain to determine whether the other person has the right “stuff” to make a suitable long-term partner than to feel our way to this decision. Of course, what we feel is essential, and someone may be a great fit with all the important qualities that we are looking for, but if our body doesn’t react to them — no attraction, no chemistry, no “wow” — that’s also important information on which to base our decision. We need both heart and head to decide.
The calming presence of a person by your side at every difficult turn in life is what you need. Someone who’s there for you, cheers you up at times when all you want to do is cry and who understands you is a life partner you indeed need with you, at all times. Love is the bond that connects us all but finding a life partner can be incredibly difficult. But that’s what people say: it’ll take time, it’ll be difficult but when you find them, it’s a breathtaking moment with inexplicable feelings. You have just got to find them.
In account of this here are five clues that will help you find out whether or not someone has the qualities to go the distance:
Potential partner with same interests
Selecting someone who shares a lot of common interests with you will work in your favour. Remember that all your interests don’t really have to be the same, but some would do. Says clinical psychologist and relationship expert Seema Hingorrany, “When you decide to spend your life with someone, you must look at things that the two of you would love to do together. For example, if you are a movie buff, you would ideally like to be with someone who enjoys movies as well. This will make your life interesting.”
Find someone who you can connect with easily
It is very important to choose somebody with who you can easily strike a conversation. This way, you can enjoy doing things and talking about them together without getting bored.
Consider your partner’s intellect
If you are a laid-back person and your partner is an over-achiever, that could lead to a threat in your marriage. You must see eye to eye on how both of you are able to think and process things.
It’s okay to have standards
While choosing a life partner, you need to consider your and your family’s standards. Though it’s okay to choose someone who probably does not belong to the same strata of society as yours, make sure that he/she’s not completely off the mark.
You should have respect for one another
You obviously cannot spend your life with someone who has no respect for you or your dreams/goals or your personality. So, choose someone who will acknowledge you for the rest of your life.
